Happy Mother’s Day
Motherhood sits at the very center of the mandala of parenting. There is no more buzzing and necessary distraction than in parenting. For most parents, there is little dispute over whose needs come first. For parents of food allergy kids, the child is first and always in full light. Mothers are the lead adventurer into a wilderness that we would not have chosen to venture into given the choice. Mother is compass and guide, advocate and comforter, guardian and risk taker. Her love is the place an allergy child can call home.
On Mother’s Day, it is good to recognize the shockwave of a food allergy dancing with the shockwave of parenting passes through a mother’s psyche with far more power than often that of anyone else in the family. Perhaps this is because there is something so primal and powerful and blessed about bearing the burden of making sure that a child survives until they can care for themselves and let go into adulthood with their respective tribe.
Motherhood both opens a space and is the space for our children to feel the security to venture out into the dark, rain-filled forest and discover the self. Motherhood is the light in the pitch dark of life-threatening food allergies. Mother is great comfort in a life of contradictions. Motherhood transforms the uncertainty and vulnerability of food allergies into what broadly yet profoundly can be called a “better place.”
Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers whose interior whispered voice is heard by the child not as “something is wrong with me” but rather as “nothing is wrong with me.” Motherhood is the very felt sense of belonging that heals the wounds and vacant spaces left open and raw by the fear of food allergies. Hold strong and steady mothers. Know that we love and cherish you for all you are and all you do.
Father and Co-Founder of Don’t Go Nuts